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A Dream Come True
By: Richel Daonlay

“When you wish upon a star it makes no different who you are. Anything your heart desire will come to you”. Every time I heard this song many question come up to my mind. Does it not really matter who we are? When poor is always the loser and the rich are always the winner. It sounds unfair, right? Even as a child I perceived that wishes, dreams, and aspirations belong only for a few rich individuals. But this perception suddenly changed when I know a place named Mahayag, once upon a time.
Last summer vacation five of us were assigned to conduct our summer Bridging 2009 at Mahayag, St.Peter, Malaybalay city. It is a paradise surrounded by mountains and rivers. A home of full blooded Talaandig, Higaonon, and Pulangihon Manobo tribes. People are still rooted and bounded to the own roots of their culture. A place portrays the simplicity of life where the spirit of “Bayanihan “was still a virtue and “handuga”(sharing) was still a living legacy.
Mahayag was also subjected to arm conflicts since it is situated close to the boundary of Agusan and Bukidnon. Amidst of threatening peace situation they never loss hope that one day their long life dream of having a community tribal school will come to realize. Parents cannot afford to support their children in school. However, it is their desire to educate the young ones, for it is their common experience that whenever they sold their products they were not being paid with due amount because they don’t even know how to read, write, and count.
Two years ago, Mahayag established Pigpamulahan Tribal School which offers primary education. This was also the joined efforts of Bukidnon Tribal Filipino Foundation Inc. (BTFFI) and other supporting group. At that time the community and BTFFI don’t have enough funds to establish a new school. Men in the community voluntarily gathered bamboos, timber, and nipa to build in their classroom. First teachers in the school are volunteers from nearby places. A month later, various encounter between soldiers and NPA happened in mountain ranges surrounding Mahayag. They were forced to evacuate to the Barangay proper. After that tremendous armed conflict, they started a new beginning. They strengthened their community leadership and peace building in protection to their life, land and culture as lumads. And there was entire silence and peace in Mahayag for the last two years.
But just the beginning of this year there was again uprising encounters between NPA and soldiers. During our summer bridging I’m handling incoming grade five pupils between 14 – 16 years old. We are now in two weeks of teaching when suddenly we heard sound of a canyon. All become panic. Women gathered their children inside home. People keep on running searching a place to hide. At that moment, I am speechless and I can’t move my feet. I was so shock because never in my life I had experience such. Few minutes after, group of soldier came and stayed there for almost a week. Some household are now packing their things for they don’t know what happen next.
We still continue our class, even though many were absent because they are now afraid of war. As a teacher, I calmed myself because I know my student needs me more at that moment. Fears are clear in their eyes. Instead of having my lesson that day, I let them draw something what is in their mind and hearts because, it is only then I’m giving them the chance to heal their fears and pain. Some of their drawings are soldiers, guns, other deadly weapons. On the second activity, I let them draw what are their dreams for themselves and community. Majority aspire for peace in their place. Then, let them burn their first drawing. And ask them to bring home the drawing of their dreams. I let them play afterwards, in spite of a fact that soldiers are roaming around the community. And I think that works after all, because children are still coming to school. I always motivate them to pray, think positive and never afraid of anything
My memorable experience in Mahayag molded me much to be an optimistic and a better peace builder. My experience in armed conflict might only be a tip compare to others. Just be ourselves and have peace that all start from within for us to be a channel of peace for others. Children are the most vulnerable in armed conflict areas let us work on together in achieving lasting peace that the young and incoming generation may develop that positive outlook in the world we are living with. We don’t need to be someone to become a peace builder. Dreams do come true also for the poor like us. Only we have to do is believe in the beauty of our own dreams and work for its fulfillment. Great changes all started in simple yet meaningful dreams.

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THE WADII RIVER
By: Richel N. Daonlay

Long time ago, in the Mountain ranges surrounding Mt. Kitanglad, there found a wide river. This river had been found mysterious among the people who pass over here because of the small voices of children can be heard while passing along the river. It has been believe that a Diwata the goddesses of children inhabits the mysterious river.
From this river was a small sityo of Maagnao, Cawayan ,Lantapan ,Bukidnon. It was here where a number of native people lived in. In one family there was a little girl named Wadii, who has five brothers. Four were older than her but one was still small. Wadii’s father was like most fathers .He showed his sons how to-do things. He was proud of his sons, on how they fished and hunt. But never told Wadii how he was proud of her. He didn’t noticed the bags that Wadii made. How she took good care of her brother. And even noticed how good she was in playing a flute.
Wadii’s mother was proud of her. At times she said, “You did well my Wadii ”.And Wadii replied, “thank you mother, how I wish father able also to see all the things I did here at home”.
The little girl wish only that somehow her father would learn also to appreciate her .She thought of doing something like what her brother does that will make her father proud of her. She plant beans and corn at their backyard. She dig the soil and planted the seeds alone. Each day she looked at the soil and thought about the seeds.”Are the seeds any good?”,”Did I planted them right?”, “will they grow?”.After a week, her father noticed that small plants growing at there backyard. He went there and found his daughter busy in cultivating the soil. “What are you growing?”, he said.”Beans and corn father”, Wadii answered. Upon hearing about the seeds, he asked.”And where did you get the beans seed? “ . At the kitchen father”, she answered. Father replied, “at the kitchen?” He continued, “Don’t tell me you’ve used the beans I intended for the coming planting”. Her father started to loud his voice. And she knows her father get mad at her .Her father continued, “How many times I’ve telling you don’t get anything without my permission”.”You’re so hard-headed “. “You always makes me mad at you”, father said.
She was hurt and cried of what her father told her. She get flute and run so fast going to the forest. All she wants is to get away from home. After and hour of running, she reached the wide river situated at coldest part of the forest. And she found a very strange feeling upon looking at the river.” What a magnificence creation there is”, she thought. She asked herself, “Did anybody had come this place and try to fish?”.
Wadii though have strange feeling, feel comforted as she found a resting place for her. She decided to seat in the big stone and started to play her flute. The music fills over the surroundings and the wind started to blow. As she close her eyes, she think about her family.”Are they searching for me this time?”.Or they wait me to come home?”Though my father is still angry at me this time?” she asked her self.
With those moment she recall all her memories she had, with her family and her father who never become proud of herein thinking those things, warm tears drops roll upon her cheek. Tears falls so fast that unintentionally, fill over the water surface. Then in a blink of an eye, the water started to wave and the skies fills its darkness and the earth shook. Wadii was astonished, frightened and shouted with fear.”Help! Help me mother! Help me father! Suddenly a beautiful Diwata appear and lays her hand to her.”Come, my dear child”, “Come before me”, she said. Then Wadii replied,” who are you?”The Diwata answered, I’m now your new parent and staring from now on, you would live in my kingdom forever.”No! No! No! “, Wadii shouted. Then a great flash of giant waves carried the little girl.
The next day, people wonder why there is a great flood when in fact there is an absence on rain. Many trees had been damaged. All the people in the sityo help to find Wadii. But they were not able to find her. They only found the flute of Wadii in that mysterious river. And the Datu knew that the Diwata of children who inhabiting the river is responsible for the loss of Wadii.
From that on, the river has been called the Wadii river. Since people who passed over that river would always hear a child cries and music of a flute which always reminds the people in that place of the lost little girl named Wadii. Presently, that mysterious river has been called the Wadii river.

inspirational qoutes for education

Education is not the filling of a pail,
but the lighting of a fire.
Wiliam Butler Yeats

Tell me and I'll forget. Show me, and I may not remember. Involve me, and I'll understand.
Native American Saying

suabanen

SUBANEN TRIBE
The Subanen means river – dweller, from the word “suba”, river common to several Philippines dialect, including Sulu and Bisaya. “Nun” or “Non” is an adjective prefix indicating origin and habitation. The term applied to the tribe because its members are net with in going up the rivers from the coast, in distinction to the Moros and Christians at Zamboanga or Sibugay Peninsula which extends westwards like a long, misshapen finger from the main body of the island of Mindanao and the point Kipit crooks sharply southward, pointing at Basilan and furnishing the northern terminus to the natural route between Borneo, together with the Malayan world beyond it and the Philippines over the closely strung island of the Sulu archipelago.
DISCRIPTION OF SUBANERN PEOPLE
• Average height
• Brown complexion
• Slender bodies
• Round faces
• Brave
• Aggressive
• Wonderers
• Revengeful
• They love to wear red and back dresses with long sleeves
The early subanen who believed in the best gods and goodness called”Diwata” like other Filipinos, they believe in life after death. That was why celebrated the beklug, a thanksgiving activity. Their supreme duty was called Megbabaya and host of other duties include environmental spirits. They also believed in a god of agriculture, called Memenua who resided in trees and rocks; and the goddess of the water called Mauma. The Subanen also believed in giants who were carnivals and were called Carhos’ and Menylaw. When ever a Subanen was in distress, he usually called on a god called Donegok with a deer like appearance consider the savior of all problems.

DON'T QUIT

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit --
Rest, if you must, but do not quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won, had he stuck it out;
Do not give up, though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow...

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you can never tell how close you are,
It may be nearer, when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight, when you are hardest hit -
Its when things seem worst, that you must not quit.
Leo Piggoti
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THE LOVELY'S/LENIE'S "EXPEDITION"

MYSELF

Introducing oneself is not easy. Indeed, it is difficult to know who I really am. However despite on this, I will try my best to tell you not just of who am I but also the story of my life especially those unforgettable experiences I had, weather it is embarrassing or happy moment.
I am Lenie Soriano Pensahan “Lovely” is my nickname, 19 years of age and I was born on January 21, 1990 in Kibangay Lantapan Bukidnon. I have one brother and he is our eldest and four sisters and I am the third daughter of Mr. Adelfo Signocan Pensahan and Mrs. Lydia Soriano Pensahan. But presently, I grow up with my beloved family, relatives, friends and co-tribe which the Higaonon tribe in the community of Tagbalili Province of Esperanza Agusan Del Sur.
“I am a product of a war”. When I was eight months of age there was a war happened not just in our Barangay but also in some other places which are nearest to our community which is the Tagbalili. I am one of those children crying while our parents bringing us in the forest to run out the fighting between New Peoples’ Army (NPA) and Military, but some of them killed civilians and they also got any kinds of things they saw and killed the animals like carabao, chicken, goat and etc. the civilian people in the community was so panicked and frightened at that time and our family are one of those who went to the forest and find place to hide. According to my parents I got sick and that was dangerous because even I cried they cannot heard my voice and my stomach was thin. After one month we went to the next Barangay where we called Nato. My parents was so afraid, it seems that I am going to die. But my parents really do there best and find ways to relief my sickness.
Fortunately, and being faithful to our Heavenly Father, my life becomes normal until I was in the age of two. When I was a baby of course even until now and to the end of my life I really felt the love and care of my parents. I remembered when I am three years of age that I got sick, my father gaffed me in front of Mother Mary’s picture and if I’m not mistaken my father was praying for me.
MY ELEMENTARY LIFE
I was not able to experience pre-school since at that time there is still no school for pre-school in our place.
Four years later…….when I am in six years old my elementary life was started in Tagbalili Elementary School. I was remember when my elementary days that because of the situation in our Barangay that is faraway in the Municipality and the road is very dangerous and we ride a motorcycle with a very expensive fare, our teachers challenged very much, sometimes we can take up a class just three times a week because they went to their own places to get there supplies.
When I was a child, I love playing with my sisters, neighborhood or friends with different kind of toys especially a doll, swimming in the river, ridding in the carabao, climbing in the trees especially in the fruit trees and most of all those traditional games and even a game which does not fitted to me as a girl. I’ve encountered any kinds of quarrel to my classmates, friends and sisters. There was a time that my father whipped me because even the sunset comes I was still playing with my peers.
I am so thankful and proud to say that even I was in elementary level I had so many good things that I’ve learned like how to cook food and viands, to wash clothes and plates, to clean our house and etc.
I graduated in elementary with my pride especially to my parents not just because I am the valedictorian but also because I finished my elementary level because of the efforts they gave me, they taught me how to read, write and those good manners that every young people must possess.
MY HIGH SCHOOL LIFE
After I graduated in elementary I was so excited to step in high school which is the next stage of my life. I enrolled in a public school in Bayugan National Comprehensive High School (BNCHS), Bayugan Agusan Del Sur (now-Bayugan City)
My high school life was full of happiness and sadness. I stayed in the Caberte’s Boarding House. I was so happy because the family or the owner of the house where I rent came closer to my heart likewise to them and I’ve mate friends inside and outside of the school, I’ve also encountered so many problems, trials and hindrances one of this was being homesick because that was the first time I am faraway to my beloved parents and friends, self-pity just like if I am alone staying in the boarding house when my board mates went to their home, in my side I was not able to go home because of very far in our place, danger road with the expensive fare and this also the reason why I go home just two times every year. If my parents visited me sometimes ones in two or three months I’m very happy and I want to go with them in the home.
High school level is in teenager stage. I was in third year high school in the age of fifteen that I felt crush to someone or to somebody, I am a type of a girl who have many “boy friends” than to the “girl friends” even in my own community and even until now in my stage. Despite on this, I am so proud of what I had experienced because I have so many things that I’ve learned like budgeting my money and food allowance, developed my self-confidence and “trust”. And I slowly knew myself through my strengths and weaknesses and most of all on how to value those people who gave support, trust and inspiration.
I graduated in high school with full of gratitude. I am proud that my parents march in the stage with me to get my awards. And I heartily dedicated my Alma Matter to my beloved family, relatives, friends, classmates, schoolmates, co-tribes as well as to my community and to Saguidon family.
I really treasured my experiences of my high school days as I go to the next level of my studies which is in the college, I know that would help me much and I’m very thankful and blessed about it.
MY COLLEGE LIFE

The present…
I was sixteen years old when I enrolled in college in Pamulaan Center, University of Southeastern Philippines (USEP) Mintal Campus, Mintal Davao City, College of Governance Business and Economics (CGBE). My course is Bachelor of Elementary Education (BEED)
I am so happy and blessed that I am here in Pamulaan, I know it’s a big opportunity for me to be able to achieve my dreams in life and someday I can help my family as well to my community.
Furthermore, I felt that it’s very difficult to adjust to my new environment, imagine! I live in a place with the people who came from the different far communities and belong in the different tribes and of course we have also different cultures, traditions and beliefs but months past that we knew to each other we discover that we are all the same in terms of mission and vision as an Indigenous Peoples’ youth and most of all as a Pamulaan scholars who have a big responsibilities in the community.
In any activities that we had I can say that it could really help to developed and enhanced not just to myself but also to my future as a volunteer community worker someday through sharing of what I have leaned.
Start in the boarding house until in the Pamulaan Center I’ve mate a new group of friends especially from my roommates, and I’m happy to mate my fellow youth IPs’ especially my co-tribes.
Despite of those sad and hard experiences that I had here in Pamulaan, I also enjoyed when we had a tour together with my fellow Pamulaanean, the three Pamulaan staff (Ate Neneth, Ate Paula and Kuya Bob) and also some of our teachers. We went in the Mt. Kibuloi and in the pineapple plantation. I can’t really forget those memories because that was the first tour we had in Davao and when I saw some of the pictures all of the people are smiling.
In the month of December, all of the Pamulaanean went to the Samal Beach. And that was one of my most unforgettable memories together with my fellow students. In the beach, we had a program like exchanging gifts for the prayer partner and we also enjoyed the games we had like the “ .
In the school, although in sometimes I felt stress and there are some cases that it’s hard for me t o understand the lessons but I really try my best to overcome it.
I am not so good in dancing but I really love dancing, that’s why in our P.E1 subject I was happy because for the next time I performed a dance like interpretative dance, foreign dance, pop dance and especially our cultural dance.
In almost three years staying here in Pamulaan Center I have so many things that I’ve learned that I treasured so much weather it is academic or non-academic that can applied inside and outside of the school. And to be soon…..as I go on to my journey here in Pamulaan, in my studies and in my community I know many possible and impossible that will happened to my life. Just want to say good luck and God blessed as I go on to the journey in of my life.
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I READ BECAUSE ...

I Read Because ….
(By: Richard Peck)

I read beacause one life isn’t enough,
And in the page of a book I can be anybody
I read beacause the word that builds the story become mine,
To build my life;
I read not for happy ending but for new beginning,
I’m just beginning myself and I would’nt a map;
I read beacause I have friends, who don’t,
And young though they are beginning to run out of materials;
I read beacause every journey begins
At the library, and it’s time for me to start packing;
I read beacause one of these days
I’m going to get out of this town,
And I’m going to everywhere and meet everybody,
And I want to be ready.
By: LENIE "Lovely" Soriano PENSAHAN

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CARTWHEEL 10th ANNIVERSARY

By: Richel N. Daonlay

We really feel blessed for giving the chance to attend the 10th anniversary of Cartwheel. Not only because (for some of us) it’s their first time to board on an airplane nor to visit Manila but because we had met those people who had been the reason why we are enjoying a free tertiary education. Listening to the stories how Cartwheel started and the experiences of their volunteers, seems melted our hearts as we realized the hardship of Cartwheel through the years. Indeed, their stories had touched our hearts. They are not IP’s but they had sacrificed their time, effort and money just to bring education in the IP communities. As they only have one dream for the IP youth’s like us -- to avail a quality education.
Truly, we had been inspired by those people we had met in the celebration. And from that encounter we become more inspire. The sacrificial endeavor of Cartwheel family together with those people behind its undying effort is enough for us to strive harder and make good in our studies. Every one of us promised to really finish our studies because this is the only thing Cartwheel is asking from us. And that is to develop ourselves to the fullest and never waste time in our studies. They challenge us to learn more and developed ourselves to become people oriented and a service centered graduates someday. As Cartwheel grantees we would do our best in our studies because this is the only way we can pay back the kindness and sacrifices of Cartwheel and our dearest sponsors. Their vision and commitment to support us are enough for us to treasure the opportunities given to us.

"It's not how smart you are that matters, what really counts is how you are smart."

Multiple Intelligences Theory:

(JULI WISE)

Linguistic intelligence - refers to an individual's capacity to use language effectively as a means of expression and communication through the written or spoken word (Examples: poets, writers, orators, and comedians. Some famous examples include: Shakespeare, Virginia Woolf, Abraham Lincoln and Walt Whitman).

Logical-Mathematical intelligence - refers to an individual's ability to recognize relationships and patterns between concepts and things, to think logically, to calculate numbers, and to solve problems scientifically and systematically. (Examples: mathematicians, economists, lawyers and scientists. Some famous examples include: Albert Einstein, Erwin Schrodinger, and John Dewey).

Visual -Spatial intelligence - refers to the capability to think in images and orient oneself spatially. In addition, spatially intelligent people are able to graphically represent their visual and spatial ideas (Examples: artists, decorators, architects, pilots, sailors, surveyors, inventors, and guides. Some famous examples include: Picasso, Frank Lloyd Wright, and Leonardo DaVinci).

Musical intelligence - refers to the capacity to appreciate a variety of musical forms as well as being able to use music as a vehicle of expression. Musically intelligent people are perceptive to elements of rhythm, melody, and pitch (Examples: singers, musicians, and composers. Some famous examples include: Mozart, Julie Andrews, Andrea Boccelli and Leonard Bernstein).

Bodily-Kinesthetic intelligence - refers to the capacity of using one's own body skillfully as a means of expression or to work with one's body to create or manipulate objects (Examples: dancers, actors, athletes, sculptors, surgeons, mechanics, and craftspeople. Some famous examples include: Michael Jordan, Julia Roberts, and Mikhail Baryshnikov).

Interpersonal (Social) intelligence - refers to the capacity to appropriately and effectively communicate with and respond to other people. The ability to work cooperatively with others and understand their feelings (Examples: sales people, politicians, religious leaders, talk show hosts, etc. Some famous examples include: Bill Clinton, Ghandi, Oprah Winfrey).

Intrapersonal intelligence - refers to the capacity to accurately know one's self, including knowledge of one's own strengths, motivations, goals, and feelings. To be capable of self-reflection and to be introverted and contemplative are also traits held by persons with Intrapersonal intelligence. (Examples: entrepreneurs, therapists, philosophers, etc. Some famous examples include: Freud, Bill Gates, and Plato).

Naturalistic intelligence - refers to the ability to identify and classify the components that make up our environment. This intelligence would have been especially apt during the evolution of the human race in individuals who served as hunters, gatherers, and farmers. (Examples: botanists, farmers, etc. Some famous examples include: Charles Darwin, E.O. Wilson).

SERVICE ...

“To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity.”

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THE VERY BEST WAY
By: Richel N. Daonlay

Being aware of various social issues in my own Indigenous community, has influenced me at the very young age, to keep on asking myself what I can do to help my community? Do I need to be rich? Be famous? Or just simply gives all that I have in life? But all my questions remained unanswered and that was ten years back then.
Before, I plan to finish my study and seek a greener pasture abroad, in order for me to help others. But that idea suddenly changed when I first step in Pamulaan four years ago. It is an institution that opened my mind to become community oriented and service centered young people. Abrupt changes had happened to me since then.
Aside from the trainings we have in Pamulaan as part of our formation, every summer we are encourage to have our CLS(Community learning service) in our respective places. Usually, I initiate summer bridging or tutorial for children in our community. It was during our CLS last year, when I was assigned to BoLugan, Songco,Lantapan Bukidnon. Then, the chairman of the tribal council Datu Malunay asks me to help them organize the youths in the community. Datu Malunay shared that the elders aspire to organized the youth so that, young people can actively participate also in community activities. But they find it difficult to do it because; the youths are not listening to them anymore. I was then challenged to lead the activity. No second thoughts, I volunteered to facilitate youth organizing. Even deep inside, I have doubts if I can make it because; I’m just merely an ordinary student. At first, I wasn’t certain how to start it all. Especially, that most of the youths are timid while others are to busy in their work and some are now marijuana addicts. Though tribal council has their own personal conflicts, I always make sure to consult and seek some of their advices regarding my plans. I scheduled home visitation among the youths. I find ways and means to get closer with them. I play and join them in working in their farms just to reach them out. After two weeks, we have our first formal meeting. Then we have workshops for their Community Vision, Mission, and Goals. It was quite difficult to handle 35 youths with different attitudes and character traits. But I always make sure to treat them fairly especially when they have queries during our meetings. Facilitating a meeting alone is not an easy task, so I delegate others to do easier task like documenting, time keeping and preparing venues for our meeting. Even others always come late to our activity; I always speak to them with gentle voice and avoid myself to shout for they are soft spoken people. I encourage them to speak up, to know their ideas. But I never force those who don’t want to speak up. That’s why I consulted them individually for some follow ups.
Until one day, Tata 24 years old male youth named confronted me why he hesitates to speak in the crowd. Basically because according to him he doesn’t know how to read and write. He asked me to teach him privately. Through the help of my friend Jemuel I tutored Tata in the small hut in his own farm.
Presently, Tata can at least read now in Bisaya and Tagalog. And the youths in Bulo-ogan had established own organization. They are now active in their respective community. And have communal farm as an income generating program.
My special encountered in youth organizing might for others just only an ordinary experience. However from that experience of mine, I know to myself that I become a leader in my own simple ways. And I strongly believe that good and effective leadership learns not in the four corners in the classroom, but it learns best by keeping in touch to different people with humbleness of heart. We always need to level ourselves with the people we are serving with, for us to build a harmonious relationship. But most importantly, be flexible and always give your best in everything you do. Being a leader doesn’t really require us money and power. Always do things with great love and compassion. Just simply give your effort and time or in short your SELF for those who needed you most you. And always look others us a companion in achieving a special mission. Because even the most silent and ordinary person could can share something if we just have to recognized their own gifts in life.

LIFE...

I'm afraid to look ahead
I don't know want to know what I will find
But lately I've been thinking
and a few things have come to mind

Where will I be tomorrow
when the sun begins to rise?
Where will I be in 20 years
when I look back and remember the time?

Life is just a passing thing
it was never meant to stay
We were all put here together
but could be taken back any day

Friends come and go
and relationships never last
But these are the good ol days
the ones that will fill our past

Don't let these days slip away
you'll never get them back
you were put here to live
and you're never going to last

So when it's all said and done
and your time on earth is through
Don't look back and have regrets
Be happy with everything you do.

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FIVE KEY TIPS FOR BEING AN EFFECTIVE LEADER

Are you the person that goes through life just taking and getting what you get? Or do you want to be the person that embraces what they have worked for knowing what you get is a direct result of the actions you took?
According to the World Future Society the essence of leadership is the ability to see and create the future. As a leader you will need to develop the ability to see and create to become a master of your destiny.

In order to gain success in our lives it ultimately comes down to the quality of our communication with others.

There are 5 principles to success that you need to consider and remember, if you want to be the future Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, or as John Adair writes ‘become the type of leader who others follow willingly

1. Know Your Outcome.

As I stated earlier you do not want to be the person that just takes what they are given. If you want to be the builder of your dreams then you need to ask yourself what you want. Simply ask what you want to get out of this. This will empower you and shift your focus on what needs to be changed. Be clear on what you want your outcome to be, so that you will not just get what happens to come your way.
Another way to look at this s to have a clear purpose, we need to know what, why and how we want to achieve something – always remember if you don’t know where you want to get to, it does not matter what road you take.

2. Take Action.

I am always reminded of a key quote by Will Rogers, “Even if you are on the right track you will get run over if you jus sit there”. There is no substitute for taking action in terms of producing the results that you require to get the outcome that you want.

2. Sensory Awareness.

You need to be aware of whether or not the changes and steps that you have taken are actually making a difference. You need to be able to see results and outcomes that you expected. You need to set up a monitoring system to check are the changes working and if not do something about it-some one once told me ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting different results’

3. Change Behavior.

Inevitably if you have not been producing results you need to analyze where the problems are and find solutions to achieve your goals. You need to be willing to have behavior flexibility.

5. Operate from a physiology and psychology of excellence.
Imagine if you were on a door to door sales call. You would not stand there with a frown, you would not start mumbling and you would not have your head and shoulders slouched. You need to be confident, speaking clearly and enthusiastic. If you want to produce results you need to hold your body in a way that’s going to do that.
You must always remember in any communication there will always be a big chicken and a little chicken, we must always exude confidence and be the big chicken.

Finally just think of any of the good managers or leaders you have ever worked with and ask yourself, why you believe they were a good leader. The chances are some of the answers will be ‘they knew what they wanted---they were excellent at communicating---they were generally upbeat in their approach---they were not afraid to try things.
So remember if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got.
Do not be afraid to take action to build your own hopes and dreams if you don’t you will always be marching to the tune of some one else’s drum and it may not take you where you want to go.
BY: Frank O'Toole
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/learn_5_key_tips_for_being_an_effective_leader
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Who Knows What the Future Will Bring for everyone

I know you may not believe me
The answer is not clear
But if I can let you see
I am trying to get rid of my fear.

I'm seeking my feelings from up above
All our memories seemed to go too fast,
The answer may end in what we think is love
Unlike what it did to us in the past.

By the time you read this, you'll be in a different place
You can be gone anywhere to a year,
And it might be difficult to trace
So this is not so hard to hear.

The years will come and go
By then I'll be off to college,
And it will seem like a long time ago
When we both needed more of our knowledge.

So this is my dream
Maybe in the future we can be one
A pronounced team
Saying that we finally won.

The timing for now
Won't be good for either of us
We just can't let this allow
And this seems like a must

When both of us have our futures set straight
I will have to admit
That it seems like our fate
For each other, one will be in it.

For the time being
Lets still remain the best of friends
It won't be like I'm fleeing
Because of love will never end.

For the both of us the future is our calling
Both of us doing the things we want to do
The answer and wait might be appalling
But that is our final clue.

It might be our destiny to be together
Only the future knows the best
Maybe we will be with one another forever
Or that can be one's final test.

Sure we can still text and call
As best friends should
Still let us not go down and fall
I knew all along we could.

So farewell my friend, the Marine
I'm so very much proud
Fighting for ones country, and wearing the brave green
I just want to shout that out loud.

Wherever time may set
Our friendship will remain strong
Like ever since the day we met,
It might as well be written in song.

Can't wait to see you in a year or so
May it be then or not when we start our love
We will just have to wait to know
And listen for our message set from above

For now let what I have written all be true!
I can't express how proud I am of you!
You are.
The Few. The Proud. The Marines.

By: Amanda Hegedus
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APPRECIATE

"Everyone wants to be appreciated, so if you appreciate someone, don't keep it a secret."
BY: Mary Kay Ash
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Reflection about reading

“Reading is considered as the key that unlocks the door of enlightenment and enjoyment and the basic tool for learning.”
How reading is is important to us as individual? Why is it we need to develop our reading skills as early as we are? Truly reading is very important skill must develop that without it or lack of it will greatly affect an individual’s adjustment in life. Why? It because where ever we go whatever we do reading is always involve in our daily life. Even in market place, in bus terminal and even we go to plaza it is being accompanied with reading.
I choose this article because I am being inspired on this article. It is a challenge for me as parents of future. Being a parent he or she plays a vital role in developing and enhancing reading skills of their children. I believed that learning’s begins at home. As a parent, it’s our responsibility to teach our children as early as they are. Not only reading that they must develop but also in all aspect of their learning such as speaking listening, writing, and comprehension skills.
In addition, we must bear in our mind that in developing the reading skills of our learners must start as early as they are or else before they go to school so that they are prepared for their next level of their learning.
The main point of this article is that the significant role of reading is within the grasp if we start early. In this point parent plays an essential role in forming the foundation in learning process of our learners. Parents must encourage and motivate their young’s to read any reading materials and provide them as well to be able them to learn. For instance, to expose them a story books that correspond pictures in order for them to develop their comprehension skills not only they read but they also enjoy seeing the pictures. According to Murray’s interactive Theory postulates that reading is an interactions involving the reader and the text they read. Another is that learners also must expose in music or sound in order for them to recognize words. Furthermore, when child go to schools the supervision of the parents not ended up. Teachers are only one of the supporting people in nurturing the learning skills of the learners. Parents and members of the family are the main significance person to help children succeed in their reading abilities.
Thus, according to the author of this article we must lay down our weapons in the old reading war and engage new troops in the right kind of reading. So as parents we must do everything in order that our learners must engage in learning. Provide everything learning textbooks and pictures that can developed their learning process.
As I assess in this article, the interpretation of the author is fair. It is true that when you develop the skill of the children it must be as young as they are because they can easily grasps the lesson they teach from them. Another, their brain is like an empty paper which means their minds spacious for learning process, the entire lesson you teach them they can easily encode their minds. Also it better to teach the children if they are in the processes of learning. Moreover, children also can easily recognize words.
Each of us has different learning experiences. As a member in urban communities my learning experience is different from the learning on the learners in rural areas with a complete of learning materials. Maybe their learning process is more advanced than ours. Thus, there are many factors that affect on these situations. First, the families background of the learners it because the parents didn’t encourage the learners to learn more. For example for my experience during my childhood days my parents cannot really supervise me it because they have knowledge but enough because on their childhood days their parents didn’t teach them also. I cannot regret them because as parent of mine they also do their responsibility to us. Another reason parent doesn’t want their children go to school it because it is better to them to help in the farm rather than to go to school to learn. Second, the teacher factors, for instance the number of classes instead of five days it turns in three days because the school is far from the home of the teachers where she taught. Maybe also the behavior the teacher, the way she taught to the children and the attitudes as well that can affect the learning process of the learners.
I therefore conclude, in teaching a child to become a good reader is that we most start in early stage because in this stage the minds of our learners can capture easily the lesson that being teach to them. We must start even from birth to develop their reading skills ability so that they make it a habit and skills as early as they are. Furthermore, at early stage we can set up their reading skills to build their cognitive aspect of learning as well as their comprehension skills.
Thus, in developing the learning process parents must get entail because I strongly believed that parents know best for their children. Parents have a big part in the learning process of the learners.

I AM

"I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do and be determine to achieve the goal that i want to obtain."

BY: CHERRY

FIVE WAYS TO OVERCOME A BAD DAY

Bad days suck. They make everything that's going well in your life seem a little darker. They can make you cranky and carry around all sorts of negative energy, emotions and memories. When you are in the midst of a bad day, its hard to see beyond it. Your top priority when starting a bad day is to stop it as soon as possible. Here are 5 Ways to Overcome a Bad Day:

1. Drink

Before you get too excited, let's clarify. A cup of hot tea can often break a bad mood. Whether it's the great smell of Darjeeling or Mint tea, the calming effects of Chamomile tea, or the warmth of any cup of tea. Drinking a cup of tea can break a bad mood. Sit down, hold the cup and feel the warmth. As you sip it slowly, feel the warmth of the tea going all the way down to your stomach. When you drink tea in this way, it's like a mini meditation. Sit with your tea until the cup is done. Then begin your day anew.

2. Remember

Remember that this is only temporary. Remember that you've overcome this, and worse. Remember that you can have a fresh start to your day as soon as you decide to. Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt once said...."No one can make you feel bad without your permission." That can be extended to say that nothing can make you feel bad without your permission as well. Remember that tomorrow, this won't seem as bad, as permanent or as painful. Remember that you are loved and remember that you have to cheer up for those that love you so that you don't spread the negativity. Remember.

3. Keep It In Perspective

If something negative happens at the start of your day, it doesn't mean that you're entire day is going to go downhill. Don't make that choice. One bad thing happening is just one bad thing happening. You don't have to allow it to ruin your day. And just because one bad thing happened, it doesn't mean that everything else suddenly turned bad too. You don't have to allow your view of one thing being bad to make everything in your life seem down as well. You have to keep things in perspective. In fact, just doing a mental inventory of all the things in your life you have to be grateful for will help you feel better about the one or several things you are down about. Instead of allowing yourself to determine that something has ruined your day, choose to have a great day just to spite the negativity you've encountered. It takes the same energy and thought process to choose a great day as it does to choose a bad day. You just need a little more practice choosing the great day!

4. Choose to Change

It has been said that you can change your life by changing your attitude about it. If it can work for a lifetime, it can definitely work for 24 hours! This isn't easy though. You'll need to stop and remember that what you are going through is temporary. You'll need to realize that everything isn't bad...there is one or several things not going your way, but it won't stay that way. Consider that even if they remain as they are, you'll be ok anyway. You've always found a way in the past, so know that you'll find a way to make things better now.

5. Smile

The next time you are having a bad day, look in the mirror and smile as big as you can. You'll see immediately that your mood will lift just a little. Smile again, and again and you'll find yourself laughing at the face you approached the mirror with. It is just about impossible to remain in a bad mood while smiling. The physiology of smiling will impact your emotions and help you break your previous thought patterns. When in a bad mood, decide that you'll smile at every single person you pass for the rest of the day. By the end of the day, you'll forget you were in a bad mood at all.

BY:James LeGrand
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/5_ways_to_overcome_a_bad_day.html
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The Origin of the Dagmay Cloth of the Mandaya Tribe

A long, long time ago, when people still wore poki, there lived a man called Tamisa, an only child. He was known for his strength and prowess in hunting. Members of the community always got a share of the game he brought home.
One day as he was returning home from hunting, Tamisa passed by a pal’lpag under a budbud tree. It was located near a little marshland, in the middle of which grew a patch of libug or batukan rice. On the pal’lpag stone, he found dagum (clothings) and a piece of cloth with intricate symbols and designs in reddish-brown color and figures of buwaya (crocodile) and inutaw-otaw (man).
As this was his hunting ground, Tamisa was very familiar with the place, and he knew there was really nobody living in the area. Enchanted and moved by the beauty and wonders of the design of the cloth, Tamisa decided to bring the cloth and the clothings as well as the libug or batukan rice to his home.
As soon as Tamisa left, rain started to fall and woke Tagamaling, the spirit or goddess of the art. Immediately, Tagamaling went to the pal’lpag stone to collect her belongings, including the rice. But she found nothing. So she cursed the thief.
Upon reaching home, Tamisa turned over the cloth and the rice to Ompo Tikunol’l, the oldest leader of the tribe. Ompo Tikunol’l called all the weavers of the community including the mother of Tamisa, an expert in the art, to copy the intricate designs. However, not one of the community experts in weaving could produce anything. It was certainly quite frustrating for the best weavers of the village for they could not copy the designs. Then, people started feeling like they were sick and could not move anymore.
Reflecting on the situation, Ompo Tikunol’l called on all the elders and together they decided to ask for forgiveness from the Tagamaling because they perceived that what was happening to their community was a bidu (curse) which needed cleansing through a ritual asking for forgiveness.
The community performed the Balilig, the highest healing ritual, to cure everyone and to implore the Tagamaling’s inspiration and permission to give them the wisdom and the skill to copy the design in the cloth. After the ritual, the bidu disappeared and Tagamaling revealed, through a dream of Tamisa’s mother, that she had forgiven them all.
Proof of this forgiveness was that the weavers could already copy the designs. From then on, Tagamaling would appear through dreams or through the wisdom of the head weaver of the clan for their particular batuk or clan design, which serves as their insignia.

By: Banugan,Aiza B.

YA KATAW

YA KATAW









Idto pa una na allaw na tabay pa ya utaw, awun sambuk na banwa na pigngalanan na Ilian na mig-eya tumag Tagakaolo. Mya mga utaw mig-eya na alay poblima aw madeg ya kakamangan na kanilan kakan. Asini bana ini kitaen mu ya alog na pigngalanan na “Pagang-pagang” na pagkamangan nilan sa kanilan kakan aw tubig na pag-inemen. Ya alog na Pagang-pagang tuo malinis kay gayed nilan paglinisan, yan aga madeg ya isda, ambak, kulu aw lain pa na klasi na kakan adti tubig na kanmu kitaen.

Sambuk na gabi na dakula ya bulan, si Duman nyadtu ni Pagang-pagang para sumulo sa isda, ambak aw kulu. Si Duman sambuk sa manga iseg na Tagakolo na mabulot aw matinaw na iseg.
Pangkay bata pa sa kanan, matadeng da magdala sa lanan banwa.

Sa pagpandakep nan sa isda, ambak aw kulu, nyakadekeg si Duman sa tingeg na bubay na migkanta. Pigpangita nanya tagtun sa tingeg. Tabedtabed kita ni Duman ya tubig na syumubu aw awun lyumuwa seken adti tubig na ikug na dakula na isda, hantud ya lawas na isda da ya lyumuwa. Nyabelengbeleng tuo si Duman kay ya tagtun sa tingeg sambuk a kataw na matinaw tuo, na adun pa nan kitaa.


Kataw: Di kaw magkallek kanaken! Aku si Manenggeya ya matinaw na kataw na mig-eya asi na Pagang-pagang. Ya ama ku ya nyandumala sa kadeg na isda na kiten mu asi alog ini.
Duman: Aku uman si Duman. Dili aku makatuo na awun mig-eya na matinaw tuo na kataw si Pagang-pagang.
Kataw: Seken adun, mag-ubaybay da kita aw gayed da kita magkita asini.

Ya nyahitabu adti Pagang-pagang wala ubatan ni Duman adti kanan pamily aw ka-banwa. Yan uman si Manenggeya, wala nan ubatan adti kanan ama na si “Matulus Isda”. Yan agaw si Duman aw Manenggeya mag-ubaybay da, aw gayed da silan magkita adti alog.

Sambuk na gabi, migkita da uman si Duman aw Manenggeya. Kinita ni Manenggeya adti manga mata ni Duman na aun poblima nan. Yan agaw pig-usip nan;

Duman: Ee! Awun poblima ku aw ikaw ulu ya makatabang kanak.
Manenggeya : Yan agaw ubatan kanak aw tabangan ta kaw.
Duman: Manenggeya, una pa na pagkakita ku kanmu, guminawa da aku kanmu. Dili aku mabuhi kun wala kaw.
Manenggeya: Manang wala mu ba kitaa na dili aku puydi kanmu, kataw aku aw ikaw utaw.
Duman: Dili yan impultanti kun unu kaw aw unu aku. Ya impultanti pigginawan ta kaw aw pigginawan mu aku.

Siken dun, migkasinabut day a ginawa ni Duman aw Maenggeya.gayed da silan magkita adti Pagang-pagang gabi-gabi aw pigpabati nilan ya ginawa nilan adti tag sambuk-sambuk kanilan.

Manang, dyumatengya panahon na kyaedean na ginikanan ni Duman ya mahitungod kay Manenggeya aw pig-istulyaan nilan si Duman. Pi-ubat ni Duman ya tinuod, w dili dili galu malim ya kanan ginikanan manang pigpakita nan adti kanan ama aw ina kun unu kadakula ya ginawa nan adti kay Manenggeya.
Ya gabi yan, pigpaagad nan ya kanan manga ginikanan aw manga utaw na mig-eya dun I banwa na pig-eyaan nilan adti alog na Pagang-pagang para ipakita kanilan si Manenggeya. Dun kitaa ni Manenggeya na tuo guminawa si Duman kanan.
Tabed-tabed, kinita nilan na aun lyumuwa siken adti tubig. Nyallek tuo si Manenggeya kay ya lyumua siken adti tubig yan kadi ya kanan ama na si Matulus Isda.

Matulus Isda: Manengeya! Nyakaede kaw ba na dakula tuo ya sala na pig-imo mu adti gingharian tadun. Puydi ku kamangen ya ginawa mu aw iseg ini, apil pa ya manga utaw na mig-eya asi banwa ini.
Manenggeya: Kay ama kun a matulus asi alog na Pagang-pagang. Guminawa aku tuo kay Duman a dawaten ku kun unu ya atag mu kanak na silut, manang yai pag- apla ya manga utaw na mig-eya asini, ala ya labet nilan.

Ya ama ni Manenggeya nyallat kanan aw nyakalabet sa pigbati na ise nan, yan agaw wala nan padelega sa pag-atag sa silut adti kan Manenggeya, kay Duman aw adti manga utaw. Manang baling pig-imu nan na tengteng na utaw si Maneggeya. Wala day a ikug nanna isda aw nyaimu sa kanan na matinaw na bubay.
Pagkatigkas sa nyahitabu migpakasal si Duman aw Manenggeya, mig-eya silan na migleya.


BY: GINA SANGOC

CLASSROOM OBSERVATION GUIDELINES
By Maryellen Weimer, Ph.D., Editor
The Teaching Professor
Volume 22, Number 5, May 2008
A second edition of Nancy Chism's excellent source, Peer Review of Teaching, is out. In the opinion of this editor, it is the definitive resource on peer review. Besides providing excellent summaries of relevant research and translating those findings into concrete guidelines, the book is packed with resources including checklists, review questions, and instruments relevant to the assessment of multiple aspects of teaching from course materials to classroom instruction (be it in a lab, studio, clinical setting, or online) to advising to course and teaching portfolios. It's a book no teaching library should be without.
To illustrate, here's a condensed version of the seven "overall guidelines" she offers for classroom observations by peers.
1. "It cannot be assumed that peer reviewers are skilled classroom observers." Faculty need to be trained for the task. If they are, the reliability of their observations increases.
2. "A single classroom observation by one rater is not a reliable indicator of teaching quality." How many observations are needed? Some researchers recommend three; others, two different reviewers each doing two observations; still others, three or four reviewers observing between eight and ten of the instructor's classes.
3. Pre-observation information is needed to provide context for what to be observed. Observers need details about the course, the instructor, and the students.
4. When in class, the observation needs to be focused. Checklists are a great way of helping the observer look at specific aspects of the instruction. Questions and other more general guidelines can be used. Multiple examples are included in the book.
5. "The observer should try to be as unobtrusive as possible." This means the peer is an observer, not a participant in the class. Once the observer starts participating, the focus is not longer exclusively on observing the teaching and students' responses to it. Moreover, those observer contributions affect responses of both the teacher and the students.
6. Observing for a substantial amount of time is necessary. If the class is an hour long, peers should observe for the entire hour. It takes times for the instructor and the class to relax and move into teaching behaviors that are typical.
7. Notes, forms, or letters should be completed promptly after the observation. The information gleaned from being in the class remains fresh for a limited amount of time. Details become increasing difficult to remember when time lapses between observation and preparation of the feedback.


Reference:: Chism, N.V.N. (2007). Peer Review of Teaching: A sourcebook. 2nd Ed. Bolton, Mass.: Anker. (Note: Anker Publishing belongs to Jossey-Bass. For ordering information go to www.josseybass.com.)

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inspiring quotes in life

CHARM QUOTES

“Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without asking a clear question.”
~This saying about charm by Albert Camus sums up what charm actually.

Enjoy the rest of the charm quotes..

“Charm” – which means the power to effect work without employing brute force – is indispensable to women. Charm is a woman’s strength just as strength is a man’s charm.”
~Havelock Ellis

“A plain woman is one who, however beautiful, neglects to charm. ”
~Edgar Saltus

“There’s a difference between beauty and charm. A beautiful woman is one I notice. A charming woman is one who notices me.”
~ John Erskine

“Modesty is the gentle art of enhancing your charm by pretending not to be aware of it. ”
~Oliver Herford

“Charm is a glow within a woman that casts a most becoming light on others.”
~ John Mason Brown- This is my favorite charm quote

“I am bewitched with the rogue’s company. If the rascal have not given me medicines to make me love him, I’ll be hanged.”
~William Shakespeare

“Music, even in situations of the greatest horror, should never be painful to the ear but should flatter and charm it, and thereby always remain music.”
~Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

“There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament.”
~Henry Van Dyke

“I’m convinced that it’s energy and humor. The two of them combined equal charm.”
~Judith Krantz

“Music hath charm to soothe a savage breast, To soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak.”
~William Congreve

“The horror no less than the charm of real life consists precisely in the recurrent actualization of the inconceivable”
~Aldous Huxley

“It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious.”
~Oscar Wilde

There are charms made only for distant admiration.
~Samuel Johnson

All charming people have something to conceal, usually their total dependence on the appreciation of others.
~Cyril Connolly

“The charm, one might say the genius of memory, is that it is choosy, chancy, and temperamental: it rejects the edifying cathedral and indelibly photographs the small boy outside, chewing a hunk of melon in the dust”
~Elizabeth Bowen


INSTINCT QUOTES

“It is the rooted instinct in men to admire what is better and more beautiful than themselves.”
~James Russell Lowell

“If a man is offered a fact which goes against his instincts, he will scrutinize it closely, and unless the evidence is overwhelming, he will refuse to believe it. If, on the other hand, he is offered something which affords a reason for acting in accordance to his instincts, he will accept it even on the slightest evidence. The origin of myths is explained in this way.”
~ Bertrand Russell

“A good short-story writer has an instinct for sketching in just enough background to ground the specific story.”
~Lynn Abbey

“How instinct varies in the grov’lling swine, Compar’d, half-reasoning elephant, with thine! ‘Twixt that and reason what a nice barrier! Forever sep’rate, yet forever near!”
~Alexander Pope

“What is peculiar in the life of a man consists not in his obedience, but his opposition, to his instincts. In one direction or another he strives to live a supernatural life.”
~Henry David Thoreau

“Nature never appeals to intelligence until habit and instinct are useless. There is no intelligence where there is no change and no need of change.”
~H. G. Wells

My favorite instinct quote, “Instinct must be thwarted just as one prunes the branches of a tree so that it will grow better.”
~ Henri Matisse

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you and you don’t know how or why.”
~Albert Einstein

“A good artist lets his intuition lead him wherever it wants.”
~Lao-Tzu

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.”
~Oprah Winfrey

“The only real valuable thing is intuition.”
~Albert Einstein

“With the exception of the instinct of self-preservation, the propensity for emulation is probably the strongest and most alert and persistent of the economic motives proper”
~ Thorstein Veblen

“A few strong instincts and a few plain rules.”
~ William Wordsworth

“There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis.”
~Malcolm Gladwell – This is about the latest Instinct quote..

“Truly successful decision making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking.”
~Malcolm Gladwell

Another new Instinct quote:
I rely far more on gut instinct than researching huge amounts of statistics.
~Richard Branson

Very old one:
“I decided that it was not wisdom that enabled poets to write their poetry, but a kind of instinct or inspiration, such as you find in seers and prophets who deliver all their sublime messages without knowing in the least what they mean.”
~Socrates

“You do what’s in your gut- if you’ve been doing it long enough, what’s in your gut will be appropriate.”
~ Anderson Cooper

“Art is not the application of a canon of beauty but what the instinct and the brain can conceive beyond any canon. When we love a woman we don’t start measuring her limbs.”
~Pablo Picasso

FATHER’S DAY QUOTES

These Father’s day Quotes and sayings are dedicated to all the sons and daughters who will celebrate being the child of the greatest men in our lives. Here are some Fathers day quotes for all the sons and daughters.
You may want to surprise your dad with this gift.

We start with this cute father’s day quote:
The greatest gift I ever had
Came from God; I call him Dad!
~Author Unknown

“He who is taught to live upon little owes more to his father’s wisdom than he who has a great deal left him does to his father’s care. ”
~William Penn

“It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.”
~Anne Sexton

“The kind of man who thinks that helping with the dishes is beneath him will also think that helping with the baby is beneath him, and then he certainly is not going to be a very successful father”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“It is a wise father that knows his own child.”
~ William Shakespeare

Here is a Funny Father’s day quote:
“What’s all this fuss about fathers being present at the birth of their children? The way events are shaping, they’ll be lucky to be present at the conception.”
~George H. Davies

Another Funny one:
“Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.”
~Bill Cosby

“My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, you’ve had a great life.”
~Elbert Hubbard

“A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again.”
~ Enid Bagnold

“A bad father has never a good son”
~ Latin Proverb

“Fifth Commandment: Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”
~Exodus 20:12

“Becoming a father is easy enough, but being one can be very rough”
~ Wilhelm Busch

“A man knows he is growing old because he begins to look like his father.”
~Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“Lucky that man whose children make his happiness in life and not his grief, the anguished disappointment of his hopes. ”
~ Euripedes

This is a quote about parents:
“Children learn to smile from their parents.”
~Shinichi Suzuki

“A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.”
~ Unknown Author

“Any man can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad”
~Old Proverb

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.”
~George Herbert

HYPOCRISY QUOTES
O, what may man within him hide, Though angel on the outward side!
~ William Shakespeare

We have, in fact, two kinds of morality side by side: one which we preach but do not practice, and another which we practice but seldom preach.
~ Bertrand Russell

Hypocrisy is an homage that vice renders to virtue.
~François, Duc De La Rochefoucauld,

Every man alone is sincere. At the entrance of a second person, hypocrisy begins.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hypocrisy is the homage which vice pays to virtue.
~ La Rochefoucauld

The true hypocrite is the one who ceases to perceive his deception, the one who lies with sincerity.
~André Gide

If it were not for the intellectual snobs who pay, the arts would perish with their starving practitioners - let us thank heaven for hypocrisy.
~Aldous Huxley

A great deal of what passes for current Christianity consists in denouncing other people’s vices and faults.
~Henry H. Williams

An ounce of hypocricy is worth a pound of ambition.
~ Michael Korda

The state is the great fiction by which everybody seeks to live at the expense of everybody else.
~Frederic Bastiat on Hypocrisy

College football today is one of the last great strongholds of genuine old-fashioned American hypocrisy.
~Gallagher, Noel

They are not all saints who use holy water.
~English Proverb on hypocricy

We are not hypocrites in our sleep
~ William Hazlitt quotes

Be hypocritical, be cautious, be Not what you seem but always what you see.
~Lord Byron

I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being really good all the time. That would be hypocrisy.
~Oscar Wilde


CHILDHOOD QUOTES
There are perhaps no days of our childhood we lived so fully as those we spent with a favorite book.
~ Marcel Proust

If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.
~Carl Jung

Teach your child to hold his tongue, He’ll learn fast enough to speak.
~Benjamin Franklin

Do not mistake a child for his symptom.
~ Erik Erikson

The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.
~Fred Astaire

Childhood is a short season.
~Helen Hayes

What children expect from grownups is not to be ‘understood’, but only to be loved, even though this love may be expressed clumsily or in sternness. Intimacy does not exist between generations - only trust.
~Carl Zucker

Beat your child once a day. If you don’t know why, he does.
~Chinese proverb

Childhood is a promise that is never kept.
~Ken Hill


CHEATING QUOTES
“It is double pleasure to deceive the deceiver.”
~Niccolo Machiavelli

“Anything worth having is a thing worth cheating for.”
~ W. C. Fields

“Doubtless the pleasure is as great Of being cheated as to cheat.”
~Samuel Butler

And a wisdom saying about lying, or how not to get caught lying:
“If the fish had not opened its mouth, it would never have been caught”

And a funny quote in cheating by Woody Allen:
“When I was in school, I cheated on my metaphysics exam: I looked into the soul of the boy sitting next to me.”

“It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust.”
~Samuel Johnson

I would prefer even to fail with honor than to win by cheating
~ Sophocles

“When I’m not near the girl I love, I love the girl I’m near.”
~ E.Y Harburg

“We have to distrust each other. It is our only defense against betrayal.”
~Tennessee Williams

The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self. All sin is easy after that.
~Pearl Bailey

All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
~ Scott Alexander

“Drawing is the honesty of the art. There is no possibility of cheating. It is either good or bad.”
~ Salvador Dali

“The history of persecution is a history of endeavors to cheat nature, to make water run up hill, to twist a rope of sand.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Cheating was easy, but impossible to go back to.”
~Dean Osborne

Three things are men most likely to be cheated in, a horse, a wig, and a wife
~Benjamin Franklin

“See what it is to play unfair!

Where cheating is, there’s mischief there.
~ William Blake

“It is as impossible for a man to be cheated by anyone but himself, as for a thing to be, and not to be, at the same time.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Honesty is the best policy.
~ Don Quixote.

“A woman’s desire for revenge outlasts all her other emotions”
~ Cyril Connolly

He that cheats another is a knave; but he that cheats himself is a fool.
~Karl G. Maeser




MY BOYFRIEND LEFT ME QUOTES
My boyfriend left me for a guy. Then decided he still wanted me. He hurt me more times than I can count.
~ This is something that has happened to a lot of people

Those who are faithful know only the trivial side of love: it is the faithless who know love’s tragedies.
~ This is so true.

You never know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, you can never get it back.
~ This is not true and sometimes they do come back.

My heart was taken by you… broken by you… and now it is in pieces because of you.
~ Oh.. so sad to hear that.. Love can be such pain at times

Love is like falling down… in the end you’re left hurt, scarred, and with a memory of it forever.
~ You fall down in slow motion

You’re the one who broke my heart, you’re the reason my world fell apart, you’re the one who made me cry, yet I’m still in love with you and I don’t know why.
~ That is the travails of love my friend

A million words would not bring you back, I know because I’ve tried, neither would a million tears, I know I’ve cried.
~ This is so lovely…

Wanting him is hard to forget, loving him is hard to regret, losing him is hard to accept, but even with all the hurt I’ve felt, letting go is the most painful yet.
~ We can understand..

Sometimes the memories are worth the pain.
~ Oh yes.. so true

Sometime you just have to hold your head up high, blink away the tears and say good-bye.
~ This seem to the most intelligent choice.. We need to learn to move on

For a few minutes you made me feel as though I actually meant something to someone.
~ That is what hurts even more.

We are afraid to care to much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.
~ But we care nevertheless

People think it is holding on that makes you stronger, but sometimes it’s letting go.
~ Absolutely right

I made a choice to finally let go, because I can’t stand the pain, it’s time for my last tear to fall and smile again.
~ You made the right choice again…

I cried today… not because I miss you… or even wanted you… but because I realized I’m gonna be all right without you.
~ Oh Poor thing…

I wish he meant it when he kissed me cause then I could look back and see someone who loved me but I can only go back and see someone who used me.
~ Such a Pr***…

You always say you hate to see me hurt, and you hate to see me cry. So all those times that you hurt me, did you close your eyes?
~Maybe he was lying…

Sad isn’t it? How no matter what you do or say to me… when you come running back… when you need me again… I’ll be here… right here waiting for you, I’ll take you back… no questions asked. Sad isn’t it?
~ It really is sad, more so because it is so true

So… from now on… when you think of me… just remember that I could’ve been the best thing you ever had.
~ Hope he remembers that

You hurt me more then I deserve, how can you be so cruel? I love you more then you deserve, why am I such a fool?
~ We are all fools to have fallen in love in the first place

You asked me what was wrong, I smiled and said nothing, when you turned around and a tear came down and I whispered to myself… everything is.
~ This is so sad an so true..

You wonder why I don’t talk to you anymore and please believe me when I say it’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just that everything I want to say I can’t tell you anymore.
~ You are doing the right thing

I don’t know which I would rather believe… that you never did care or that you eventually stopped.

Hold my hand, just one more time, so I can remind myself why it is that I can’t get over you.

I think its time I let you go… and that is hard to do because part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life.

While I was holding on all you did was let go.

Sometimes it’s better to be alone. No one can hurt you that way.

I just wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have.

The hardest thing about growing up is that you have to do what is right for you even if it means breaking someone’s heart. Including your own.

All I’m asking for is one night together. Just you and me. All alone. And if you can honestly say you don’t feel anything for me after that night, I will finally let you go.

Sometimes all you need is a broken heart to realize that something even better is right in front of our eyes, just waiting to be found.

No one can promise they’ll never hurt you because at one time or another, it will happen. The real promise is if the time you spend together will be worth the pain in the end.

The worst feeling in the world is knowing you’ve been used and lied to.

Maybe they are right. Maybe I did get my hopes up too high. Maybe I was in over my head. Maybe I am the stupid one for ever thinking that you loved me, but maybe, just maybe, I am tired of being alone.

Every time I see him all cool, calm and collected, I lose my breath, my heart starts pounding, and I am painfully aware that I am not over him and he is over me.

I don’t know which is worse, being the one with the broken heart or being the person that breaks the hearts.

It’s not that we aren’t meant to be together, I think that we’re just not ready for forever.

You always have an out. An exit strategy to make sure you don’t get hurt. You always walk always. You walk away before they can walk away from you.

Today was just one of those days where everything I did reminded me of you and every song I heard somehow related to you. I hate days like today, because they remind me of the one thing I dont have.

There were reasons we met, reasons for the good times and reasons for the bad times, and most importantly a reason to end. We have more to learn, more to experience and more loving to do in this lifetime.

Somehow I know we’ll meet again, not quite sure where and not sure when, your in my heart so until then good-bye.

Broken heart again. Another lesson learned. Better know your friends. Or you will get burned.

This time it’s over I’m keeping my heart, I’m gonna be strong and not fall apart… it’ll get better, I’ll no longer cry… in a couple of weeks I won’t want to die, I won’t want to go back. I’ll be able to sleep, it won’t hurt so bad and it won’t hurt so deep!

I would like to thank you, for showing me a part of myself that I have never seen. Yeah we were young and dumb, but it still was fun and I guess these things just tend to fall apart and I hope you feel the same.

Sometimes we must get hurt in order to grow; we must fail in order to know. Sometimes our vision only clears after our eyes are washed away with tears.

Walk home drowning these memories in the rain biting my lip to transfer this pain, your gone and I’m still going through withdrawals, next time around I’ll build a stronger wall.

HUG QUOTES

Here are some Hug Quotes and some sayings on hugging and be hugged.

“You can’t wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug. ”
~Author Unknown

“I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time.”
~Drew Barrymore, Ah!!! How I would like to meet her..

“You can’t give a hug without getting a hug.”
~Author Unknown

“A Hug Is Two Hearts Wrapped In Arms”
~Unknown

“A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance.”
~Proverb

” A hug is a smile with arms, a laugh with a stronger grip.”
~Terri Guillemets

“The best gift you can give is a hug: one size fits all and no one ever minds if you return it”

“Hug your friends tight, but your enemies tighter - hug ‘em so tight they can’t wiggle.”
~ Lyndon B. Johnson

“If you hug to yourself any resentment against anybody else, you destroy the bridge by which God would come to you”
~Peter Marshall

“Of all the riches that we hug, of all the pleasures we enjoy, we can carry no more out of this world than out of a dream.‚”
~ John S. Bonnell

“Men greet each other with a sock on the arm, women with a hug, and the hug wears better in the long run.‚”
~Edward Hoagland

“My old father used to have a saying: If you make a bad bargain, hug it all the tighter‚”
~ Abraham Lincoln

” A hug is like a boomerang - you get it back right away.”
~Bil Keane

” A hug is the shortest distance between friends.”
Unknown

Wonderful Words

The most essential ten-letter word...
"CONFIDENCE". Trust it.
The most powerful nine-letter word...
"KNOWLEDGE". Aquire it.
The most rewarding eight-letter word...
"PATIENCE". Imbibe it.
The most soothing seven-letter word..,
"SILENCE". Experience it.
The most impressive six-letter word...
"PURITY". Radiate it.
The most desirable five-letter word...
"PEACE". Spread it.
The most popular four-letter word...
"LOVE". Value it.
The most omnipotent three-letter word...
"GOD". Remember him.
The most uniting two-letter word...
"WE". Use it.
The most resourceful one-letter word...
"I". Empower it.


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